There’s more to campfires than singing “Kumbaya.” Hanging out with buddies in the great outdoors — ideally with cold beverages in hand — is a great time to talk about life’s hurdles.
The power of fireside conversation was revealed at a recent Wellmen Project event. The outdoor adventure and personal development program for guys set up shop at the Sea to Sky Gondola in Squamish, B.C., where a mountaintop campfire shed some serious light on how to get rid of hurdles in life.
Here are three hurdles that men face, and a simple step to work through each of them:
1. Figuring myself out
From Kyle: “A lot of the daily challenges for me (involve) coming to terms with who I am and who I want to be…without comparing myself and trying to be anyone other than who I am.”
How to deal?: record your thoughts using your phone
Dictate a voice memo or type into a digital notepad, and if you want to slow yourself down, go old-school with a pen and paper.
“It is something that has become a daily practice; and finding those little cues and daily reminders to realign myself with what my goals are and how I want to live my daily life.”
2. What is my purpose?
From Peter: “There are these peaks and valleys that I sometimes have trouble navigating. Where do you put your focus in life? What is most important?”
How to deal?: be honest with yourself
“It’s about figuring out what my passions are, and how I want to pursue them.”
3. Putting my health second
From Dean: “The biggest challenge for me in maintaining my health is the fact that my kids come first. I can give everything to my children, but if I am not looking after my own health I might not be there for them.”
Click here to watch Dean’s video, “A Dad’s Story” on Canadian Men’s Health Foundation’s YouTube channel.
How to deal?: include your kids in the active things you like to do.
“I’m fortunate that my kids are at the age that I can take them to do things. I have spent tons of time on the ski hill with my eldest son; it’s really good for bonding, but also really good for our health.”